I think it fair to say that we get angry and sometimes depressed if we are unemployed. Maybe we get angry and not depressed, but we do experience a variety of emotions for obvious reasons. For myself, I noticed I was angry and did nothing; I denied my anger and as a result, I was easily agitated. This did nothing to help me focus on job hunting; and though I realized I wasn’t getting anywhere with this frame of mind, I couldn’t just stop being angry. And then it came to me – I was grieving! I was grieving the loss of my job.
According to Kubler-Ross (in her later years) and others in her field, we can experience grief in response to any great loss and uncertain situations, and that grief is a very personal process. I believe unemployment, especially long-term unemployment fits the situation. And I think the key to moving forward is to acknowledge and permit oneself to grieve.
Once I allowed myself time to grieve, I wanted to take the next step – outside my grief; just one step. For me, the next step was to share my experiences and read about others in similar situations. Following that, I started this blog. With every step I took, I felt more confident in myself and my abilities to take the next step, to define my future. What is your next step?
If you are stuck, consider career counseling or psychological counseling even. Sometimes, we need a new perspective to be able to see the path ahead.
Have a great day, and please feel free to share!